The other day, while standing on the side of the road looking down at my phone and waiting for a cab to quickly run me down to the beach for a meeting, I hear this conversation from a car in traffic in front of me:
Dude 1: Oh man I’d fuck her in a second
Dude 2: Nah Bra, she’s a little too curvy in the hips for me
Dude 1: Fuck Bra, seriously? No way man. The things I’d do to her will make her cry.
Dude 2: She’s just not my type Bra…you can have her.
Dude 1 then beeps his horn and says a bunch of vulgar shit and I pretend to ignore them.
An hour later:
My meeting is finished and I’m walking through Bondi to find my way back home. Dude 1 walks up to me while I’m waiting to cross the street.
Dude 1: How ya going?
Lee: Fine thanks
Dude 1: So where you going?
Lee: To a meeting
Dude 1: So, ummm, do you remember me?
Dude 1: I beeped my horn at you at the top of Bondi Road about an hour ago. You remember right?
Dude 1: So where you going?
Lee: Meeting…we’ve covered this.
Dude 1: Can I come or can I take you out for dinner?
Dude 1: Why?
Lee: Cause honey, the things I’d do to you would make you cry like a little bitch! …
Needless to say…he stopped dead in his tracks and I kept walking without looking back! BOOM mother fucker!!!
Yerba Mate In Bed on a Gorgeous Sydney Autumn Friday Morning
The last number of years my core quest has been to understand the idea of authentic happiness (vs face value happiness) and start experiencing it in my life. Here are some things I’ve learnt that I want to share with you today more than any other day (I have no idea why it had to be today…but for some reason it does):
1. Most of us have no idea that the happiness we feel is dependent on the happiness of others (face value happiness). We go on believing that as long as the people that affect us are happy, we are happy; as long as my boss is happy he won’t bitch at me and if he’s not bitching at me my job is safe and I don’t have to stress which makes me happy, if my kids are happy then I know they’re safe and I’m doing a good job which makes me happy, if my wife is happy I’ll get laid more which will make me happy, if I do what my record label wants and keep them happy they’ll keep funding my records and getting me more exposure which will make me happy (ps I don’t have a record deal)…etc etc!
2. Most of us believe there will be moments where all the hard work and misery we’ve endured will be worth it and we’ll all of the sudden be happy. (In all my explorations I have never met a person where this came to be true).
3. Becoming authentically happy is the hardest thing you’ll ever do because it requires you to look at, and let go of, your ultimate fears. It is also the only thing you’ll achieve in your life that can never EVER be taken from you. Not in any lifetime.
4. Once you start seeing Authentic happiness in your life (mixed in with the face value happiness) you will be drawn to it like a vacuum and the guilt you originally started feeling over basing your happiness on you instead of others no longer exists.
5. EVERYONE if given the choice would choose authentic happiness over bullshit happiness. It is addictive and infectious. I have seen this in my life and the life of the people around me. It spreads like the best kind of disease.
6. Once you’ve changed your focus from face value happiness to authentic happiness the bullshit people leave your life. The more time you spend getting rid of your own bullshit (this is called becoming authentic) the more uncomfortable people consumed by their own bullshit feel when they are around you. Simply being around you makes them see all that they dislike about themselves. It took me a couple of years before I realised and stopped asking myself “why are so many people leaving me”… (p.s eventually you’ll start seeing that the new people you’re drawing into your life are on a quest to find authentic happiness too).
7. People who are authentically happy have no reason to blow shit up. They have no reason to harm others. They do not seek drama. They do not seek solutions outside of themselves. They realise that everything in their life is as a result of their own choosing and although they may not be able to understand what choices they made that resulted in what’s in front of them they, rather than focusing blame on themselves (or others), get about the business of being grateful for the awareness, then choose different and change the situation. This applies to every single situation you could think off. (Many times I have wanted to blame a number of the people in my life for a tonne of shit that’s happened to me…until I realised I am the only enabler in my life). Authentically happy people realise that the world outside of you can’t be changed by you… Your own world can be changed by you and the collective experience is changed by how the collective is experiencing themselves. Focus on your authentic happiness. Once a majority of people do this the terrorists won’t come near you. It’s universal law.
8. All happiness, authentic or face value is a choice…both are hard work…one leads to a lifetime of illusions..the other leads to a sense of freedom you started of thinking you never deserved!
9. We have dreams in order to reveal (and work through) our fears, not fir the purpose of material success (although that will become simple, yet somewhat insignificant in the scheme of things, for authentically happy people) Ask any who has been successful at anything and they’ll tell you some version of; “Fear is the only thing that stands between me and everything i choose for myself. That knowing , and taking action on addressing the fear, will make you the happiest person you have ever known. Its the greatest legacy I will leave to the world.”
10. Creating music, eating peanut butter, making coffee, and drinking Yerba Mate while I think about the world are all things that I have discovered involve authentic happiness in my life…Ive also also just noticed that 2 of those things involve caffeine lol
Today is my birthday and I’ve been reflecting a tonne in meditation this morning on how my life has evolved since this time last year! Thank you for the role you guys have played in that journey. It’s huge and blows my mind how much limitless love you have for me, my music and my journey!
I recently watched an amazing TED talk by the wonderfully inspiring independent artist and human being Amanda Palmer. It was all about the art of asking people for help with your music.
I’m not well practised on asking for anything but today, on my birthday, I’m going to humbly ask YOU for your help with my music.
How can you help? I’m glad you thought that question. These days you, the fans, friends and family of any artist ARE THEIR RECORD LABEL! You determine any artists success. Did you know that before I make any money on most streaming services it has to be listened to 200 times on that service…and even then I make about 2c ever 200 listens, but services like Spotify are making a tonne of money from my music! Now I have no issue with them making money at all. As an entrepreneur myself, I offer them my congratulations on developing a product that works so well for consumers…but it doesn’t work well at all for the artists. This is were I am asking for your help!
I NEED YOU TO BE MY VOICE OUT THERE ON THE INTERWEB!
The new album, Laundry After Midnight, was made by a team of very hard working individuals who worked day and night for 2 years (outside of day jobs) to create an album that is as honest, raw, and technically brilliant as possible. I’m not gonna lie, I’m in awe of what we’ve created and it seems the people who are hearing it are loving it too! It’s starting to get played in clubs and on podcasts all over the world…and while that’s amazing, it’s not nearly enough, because the people who helped me create this baby deserve to be see the rewards for what they have done.
So here’s what I humbly ask from you…my fans, family and friends:
1. Please go buy the album. You can listen to it in full length for free here at Bandcamp. Decide if you like it and then buy it. If it’s not your thing but you know someone who would love it…please tell them about it. It’s also available on iTunes and almost everywhere else! But the best sound quality you’ll get is on Bandcamp, plus you get the official lyric book and and extra mix for free. (also for my Australian peeps…it’s cheaper here as well) Please remember to rate and comment on iTunes or anywhere else you get it. This is a huge help! x
2. Share it with your friends! Yep that’s right…let your friends rip the album from you! I don’t mind people sharing my music through file sharing. Just ask them to go pay for it if they love it. Many a time I have given the album to people for free to listen and every single time they later tell me that they went and paid for it. So give it to everyone you think might enjoy it! x
3. Share it with your favourite DJ’s, club owners, bloggers, and podcasters all over the world until they listen to you! THIS ONE IS HUGE! If you want to hear this album in your clubs or on your favourite radio station TELL THEM TO PLAY IT! AGAIN & AGAIN! e-mail them, tweet them (and tag me @leesafar) Facebook them, comment on their blog posts with links to the songs on youtube or soundcloud. Again..this one is a huge help x
4. And finally…please watch and share this lyric video. The first lyric video from the album has been released today. ‘Serenity Now’ is track 3 from the album, and I LOVE how much you guys are LOVING THIS TRACK! Come find me on facebook and tag my page when you share it if you can! Otherwise, just share the shit out of it and help spread the word about an album that a handful of amazingly talented people have helped me create.
Thank you for doing any or all of the 4 things on the list above and helping to make this the best birthday ever! You’ve no idea how great it feels to have friends like you to ask for help and to know that you are there when I need it. I am truly blessed and so humbled!
It’s March 1st here in Sydney, Australia, which signifies the first day of Autumn (fall). A new season is upon us and I feel this change being reflected in so many areas of my life.
Throughout my life, change is something I’ve always craved but was terrified off, mostly because of how it would affect the other people in my life. These days I embrace and welcome change without over thinking it too much. I still struggle with the super highway of thoughts initially…”What if it doesn’t work out, what if I’m being too ambitious, what if it doesn’t go according to plan…blah blah blah”….. learning to be kind to myself is a constant process and at times feels like a battle I might loose, but I finally feel like I’ve cleared just a little room in my head for nurturing thinking. I sometimes catch myself smiling when I hear a loving thought naturally respond to an arse kicking one. A number of times now I’ve caught myself saying “We don’t do that anymore” in response to situations where someones actions confuse me because of how destructive they’re being. “We don’t do that anymore” means that “we” (being the 600 version of me that came before me to accumulate to the now “me”) try not to own other peoples bullshit. I’d like to say that not owning other people’s bullshit was a skill I’ve mastered…but then that would be me telling you a tonne of my own bullshit!
Do we ever get to a place where our head doesn’t control us? Were the constant mind fuck from our past conditioning doesn’t plague us? I used to believe that the absolute answer to that question was without a doubt “no”. And while I still can’t tell you that I know without a doubt that the answer is “yes”, I can tell you that my openness to change has shown me that if the choices I make to instigate change are based in love rather than fear…I might just get there. The new season always reminds me that the next season is inevitable…how I am reflected in that inevitability is my choice!